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| 11.13.02 Her Husband is Seriously Hyper She's very embarrassed by the way he acts. By: Judith Reitz Posted: 11-Nov-2002 Question: Dear Judith, I've dealt with an issue for over 10 years. Its one I am dealing with my spouse. I first met him in high school where we were squeamish little school kids, then our love flourished and two years later we were married. To make a long story short, my husband is seriously hyper... Sometimes he just spaces off and sometimes he just pulls things out of nowhere. Now, I know you're saying to yourself... men (and women) are like that sometimes, but he's like this a lot... I guess he always has been but I never really noticed it before. The part of it I'm struggling with is that I am very embarrassed by the way he acts when we are with other couples or by the things he says or the fact he can't just sit and relax. I don't know if I'M the one being crazy or if he truly needs some social skills... I love him and I want to be with him but having no social life together is hurting our relationship... Please give me a fair judgment, I would appreciate it! THANKS :-) Red Faced -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Judith's Reply: Dear "Red Faced," I would strongly advise you to talk to your medical doctor or knowledgable health care provider -- particularly someone who is astute in regards to biochemical, physiological imbalances. I can't tell from your description exactly what is going on but one of the first things I would do as an holistic psychotherapist is have a complete medical and psychological workup done to see what role body chemistry is playing in his behaviours. What you are describing sounds like some imbalances are probable and I would certainly start with what can be more easily corrected by diet, nutrition, supplements, etc. It is amazing what a diet high in sugars, refined carbs, caffiene, junk foods, foods we have trace allergies to, preservatives, etc. can do to one's attention span, "hyper-ness" or lethargy, innattention, attention deficit disorders, and a host of psychological and social disorders. I would also be attentive to the possiblity of substance abuse or use. After screening out these issues , I would then seek a therapist skilled in social disorders and relationship issues and get some professional help. Let me know what you discover. I'd like some follow up on this. Sincerely, Judith Dear Judith, What the hell are you? An Holistic Psychotherapist? What is an holistic psychotherapist? Apparently someone who listens to people that have genuine and real problems, then suggest they eat some nuts and berries. The man was originally "seriously hyper," the evidence for "seriously hyper" was that "Sometimes he just spaces off and sometimes he just pulls things out of nowhere." This is not seriously hyper, this is either seriously stupid or seriously sick of listening to his wife's crap. No mention was made of the husband's heart rate, blood pressure, attention span, sleeping patterns, or any other medical evidence. "Sometimes he just spaces off and sometimes he pulls things out of nowhere." ?!? The correct advice is: "Lady - your husband hates you and wants a divorce. That is why he is embarrasing you in public. Call your lawyer." Then you can have them eat nuts and berries or whatever. My advice to you - quit sucking. Love, Metten |
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